In college, you encounter a myriad of motivations as you commit to the pursuit of the best college experience possible. Motivating me as a freshman in 2011 and motivating me in adulthood, Ibùkún Jaiyeola is a phenomenal woman of excellence and a friend pushing me to excellence with her commitment to excellence.

More easily known as “IBK”, Jaiyeola prioritizes the importance of character, integrity, and excellence–transcending the stress of any situation or the gravity of whatever she’s going through. With about 5 minutes of your time, my good friend IBK opens up about her life, her journey, her [graytness], and some words of wisdom for any millennial acclimating to their universal purpose.

We open up reminiscing on what initially brought us together in our friendship.

INTRODUCTION

1. We bonded over our love for crisp, clean, contemporary branding. Professionally, what fuels your passion about branding & communication?

IBK: We did, and such good work too. I am a storyteller and I love to make connections between people and ideas, or what have you. Storytelling is perhaps the most powerful tool to bring forth ideas into the world and to show how connected we all are to each other. So professionally, I get to do that working in communications. The fact that I can tell a thing or person’s story, through words and/or images, and that I can give it relevance is powerful and fulfilling. That’s what fuels my passion.

JOURNEY

2. Your first time in America was your first time coming to Malibu to embark on your Pepperdine journey? In your attempts at acclimating to American culture, how were you able to surpass any of your own doubts or the doubts of others to embark on chasing your goals?

IBK: Genesis 28:15!  “Know that I am with you always,  and will watch over you wherever you go, and I will bring you back to this land. For I will not leave you until I have done what I have promised you.” My aunt (God rest her soul) wrote that in a letter to me that I read on the plane moving to America and I held on to it. It became the verse of my life, and I built my life around it. It didn’t matter what I faced, that verse kept me together.

The other important thing I’ve come to appreciate is self-knowledge. Know thyself. I was very fortunate to know early on what I want to do with my life. So even through the loops of life, I keep a  mental picture of where I’m headed. I don’t remember my adjustment into America conflicting with my goals, if anything it just showed me that I had a broader stage to work on, and I embraced it. Honestly, I’m more critical of myself than others, so whatever doubts others may have, I probably already went one step ahead. My values and my faith keep me grounded and in check. I have friends and family that speak life and truth over me, and I just soak that up and push through. So I guess faith and good people helped me surpass whatever doubts.

3. You are a woman of class and dignity. What are three (3) values have you brought with you from your upbringing that are significant in shaping your perseverance towards fulfilling your purpose today?

IBK: Faith in God and His word, authenticity and kindness

GRAYTNESS

4. What do you identify as your differentiating factor among other brand specialists/brand architects?

IBK: Honesty, I don’t know if I’d call myself a brand specialist, or at least I’d prefer not to. Maybe a communications specialist. And as a communicator, I’m very curious about people. I think all good communicators should be.

5. Considering your return to Nigeria after obtaining your Masters degree from American University, what advice can you give on the value of returning to your roots as a way of pursuing one’s personal [graytness]?

IBK: Personally, I’d always known that I’d return to Nigeria, it was only really a matter of when. I think that as human beings we have a responsibility to give back to the world around us. I also believe that the things we don’t get to choose per say, like our gender, place or family of birth, play significant roles in our purpose. I didn’t have a say in being born Nigerian, or what not, but I identify with the Nigerian story.

6. What are three (3) routine practices you implement to ensure your purpose in life consistently aligns with the manifestation of your dreams?

1. I pray. There’s my vision for my life, and then there’s God’s purpose for my life. Prayer is my way of keeping these aligned.
2. I read or listen to sound teachings
3. I retreat and hibernate

EFFORTS/ETHICS

7. What encourages you to keep reaching for more, challenging the status quo in brand representation in Nigeria and/or internationally?

IBK: The knowledge that I’ve merely scratched the surface in my professional career. I know what can be done that I haven’t yet done. I mean, I have so much to do that I have not yet done. Then of course things are constantly evolving in the industry. It’s all still so fresh, and we’re just starting to get more creative.

MOTIVATION

8. What are three (3) impacting scriptures/quotes/mantras that you use to guide your life?

1. Know Thyself
2. Genesis 28:15
3. AND, God is good (even when I’m not)

9. Pepperdine was the foundation of our friendship, rooted deeply in leading the Pepperdine Black Student Association. For fun, during your 2012 graduation I remember our parting hand rise with Nduka. If you were to select a song to score that moment, what song would you choose?

IBK: LOL. “We Made It” – Busta feat Linkin Park. I think that sums the friendship, and us working together to birth our vision for the BSA.

10. What was one moment of personal failure or personal success that would motivate someone else to continuously press towards fulfilling their dream?

IBK: One time I got a brief to develop a board game, and I was given a deadline to work with. By my calculations, I had done everything right – concept, market research – all of it. I thought I was doing pretty good. But by the demo presentation it fell apart and I felt so defeated because of how hard I had worked on it. My boss was really pissed and I was pulled off the project. What I learned from that experience is that you might have all the ducks lined up and things still don’t pan out the way you expect. The redeeming part of this story is that I went on to work on many other projects and I still do. It didn’t end there, it never really does.

The thing about your dream is that it’s yours, so of course you have to go on to fulfill it. Who else would, if not you?

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[GRAYT PEOPLE] Profile Series curates an informational collective of inspirational individuals who have shown what it means to mobilize confidence to challenge [GOOD] and mobilize courage to champion [GRAYT]—highlighting their past, their journey to their [graytness], their efforts and ethics, their motivation, and their aspirations.

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Ever since the first time I gained access to a home computer on the cusp of the new millennium, I have been enthralled with technology, thus I am always excited to see minorities occupying the tech space. Brian Gerrard—most widely known for co-founding increasingly popular Bae App—is a young man cementing his mark within the tech arena and aspiring to do so with each idea, marketing campaign, and app he pushes to the culture.

As a University of Virginia alumnus, Brian and I conversed over the phone about elements of his  life, his journey, his [graytness], his motivations, and words of wisdom, resulting in a 5-minute  inspirational boost to “make your good, GRAYT!”

Commencing the conversation, Brian and I discussed what compelled him to pursue app creation & development.

INTRODCTION:

1. What compelled you to pursue app creation & development, specifically creating a dating app?

After reaching a breaking point in corporate America, Brian exclaimed that he could not accept simply being a “cog in someone else’s wheel.” Brian further shared that he realized, “that the path that I [was] on, would never get me what I wanted because it was someone else’s path.” This moment of discontent and purpose discovery led to his revelation that app creation & development is his exciting way of bringing an idea to life and to people—possibly millions of people.

JOURNEY:

2. In developing the Bae App, what was one moment of failure or success you encountered that motivated you to continue pursuing the development of Bae App and/or continue pursuing your dreams?

Bringing an idea to life is exactly what Brian and his brother, Justin Gerrard and Jordan Kunzika, did when they created the Bae App and inaugrally launched it at Howard in 2014. Expounding upon the impact of their successful launch, Brian shared that with only $100.00 of online marketing dollars expended, his Bae App defied the odds and surpassed 15,000 downloads in one month (where Brian reports two-thrids of all apps take an entire year to reach its 1000th user). This particular success story elevated the importance of “structure” into Brian’s business journey, as he gained exposure to starting up businesses and experiencing the acquisition of a business

3. What are three (3) values/characteristics you identify as necessary when developing an app and/or pursuing entrepreneurial aspirations?

Brian equates the necessary components of a car to the necessary characteristics when pursuing app development or entrepreneurial aspirations, highlighting the importance of the engine, the wheels, and the driver

• Engine: Brian esteems the team of engineering and developing professionals as the core of developing a thriving app.
• Wheels of the Car: Sharing on the significance of efficient marking, Brian further shares “It doesn’t matter if the engine works, because if a car can’t get anywhere, it can’t be seen!”
• The Driver: Considering who’s behind the wheel when that car is seen, Brian shares on the importance of leadership and their role as person who “put[s] their hands on the wheel and drive the thing”

GRAYTNESS:

4. What do you identify as your differentiating factor among other app creators and tech entrepreneurs?

After conversing on the seriousness and significance of confidence when starting something new, Brian and I then discussed what distinguishes himself among other app creators and tech entrepreneurs. That factor being his “appetite for learning,” sharing that the major key is to “seek out what you don’t know”

Within the immensely creative tech sector, Brian humbly acknowledges the notion that when in such a sector an individual has “the opportunity to become a thought leader, affirm[ing] ideas as truths.”

5. Noted as launching in front of 10 million people on the day it was launched, Bae App’s launch was a success. What advice do you have for young entrepreneurs on the importance of strategy in developing a brand?

Considering that one does not automatically become a thought leader and that such is an evolving process, Brian shares  the importance of patience and progressiveness, a strong network of trustworthy advisors, and an openness to how you’re thinking about things, as the “best strategic ideas are where you least likely expect them.”

6. What are three (3) routine practices you deem significant in staying relevant while staying in alignment with your purpose?

In reflecting on the three routine practices significant in staying relevant while staying in alignment with his purpose,Brian acknowledges that he strives to implement a strict regimen at the beginning of his day and at the end of his day—acknowledging, “How you begin and how you end will determine what happens in the middle.”

Among  his three common practices, Brian strives to: exercise & stretch in the morning, eat healthily, and appease his intellectual curiosity—whether it be through reading or writing as a contributor for LinkedIn’s media portal and other platforms.

EFFORTS & ETHICS

7. Peaking as a “top 50 Lifestyle app in 20 African/Caribbean countries,” why do you believe its important to continue challenging the status quo of social interactions and relationships within the Black community, through technology?

Finding the perfect dating app can be difficult in the sea of countless apps in the App Store & subsequently staying relevant can be even more difficult; nevertheless, Brian is pushing the message that “going extremely niche” is the route to currently embrace. Particular for the Bae App, Brian and his team strived to curve a niche by catering to the Black millennials, from Black millennial creators; provoking relation and connectivity to the brand.

MOTIVATION

Black millennials striving to carve their own lane in the tech excites me; thus, Brian excitedly shared he launched and is bringing to market two new apps, one currently released called,  We Chill (A LifeStreaming App) where influencers & Users Interact, with revenue potential for influencers.

8. What is an impacting scriptures, quotes, and/or mantras that you use to guide your life?

Eager to ascertain what drives his motivation, Brian shared a Frederick Douglas quote to close our conversation, which he shared, “The man who will get up will be helped up; and the man who will not get up will be allowed to stay down. Personal independence is a virtue and it is the soul out of which comes the sturdiest manhood.” Closing, Brian expounds on this quote, “At the end of the day, no matter how many inspirational videos you watch on YouTube. Whatever is being said in the pulpit, motivation has to happen intrinsically for anything to work. As you want you more, you’re going to have to find that within yourself”

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[GRAYT PEOPLE] Profile Series curates an informational collective of inspirational individuals who have shown what it means to mobilize confidence to challenge [GOOD] and mobilize courage to champion [GRAYT]—highlighting their past, their journey to their [graytness], their efforts and ethics, their motivation, and their aspirations.

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Original Photo Credit: Aundre Larrow

Some days you wake up to find some one or some thing that has gone viral, such happened to me when I discovered The New Stereotype, a while back. The image series– sharpening the Black male stereotype through the lens of fashion–is curated by Marquelle Turner. An inspiration turned friend-in-my-head, Marquelle and I conversed about his life, journey, his [graytness], his current endeavors, and his words of motivation in his GRAYT People Profile.

With approximately 8 minutes of your time, enjoy Marquelle’s candid and inspirational responses to questions curated to address the importance of faith on this roller-coaster we call life, the impact of living abroad on the black identity, and the importance of creating positive imagery in the next four years, amongst other things.

We open discussing what cultivated his creativity, at an early age.

INTRODUCTION

1. How did growing up in a small town in North Carolina birth your dreams and give life to your imagination?

Marquelle: Growing up in a small, rural town in North Carolina, all I had was my imagination. There wasn’t much to do and I grew up with a limited income, so I let my thoughts take me places I couldn’t otherwise have gone. I can say as an adult that imaginative trait still exists today and allows me to be optimistically open-minded in an unconventional way.

JOURNEY

2. Living abroad has a way of broadening the lens in which we interpret life. How did living abroad in the south of France shift your perception and/or internalization of your identity & blackness?

Marquelle: Living abroad in the south of France and now in the Middle East, has allowed me to understand the global perception of black men and women in a much more complex way. I don’t personally feel like I’m a representative for all black people but unfortunately we are grouped as one and when people see me they want me to help affirm their “black narrative.”  I can say that what I’ve been very proud about is making sure that I’m unapologetic about being a Black American. From my discussions on music and culture to politics and civic rights, I’ve been very candid about what that means to me as a black man. In the past, I may have reverted to a “code switch” but now I’m much more comfortable being transparent. While the world watches and is well aware of the many challenges back in the States, I want them to know my spirits are still high and I’m very hopeful about progress. I can also say in Europe and the Middle East they’re a bit more open minded about bringing your true self to the table, so that certainly helps.

3. Every now and then, when we experience doubt and/or discouragement, we return to various values we internalized in our upbringing. What are three (3) specific institutions (home, college, city, church, small group, etc.) that shape(d) the pursuit of creatively impacting society in a formal and/or informal manner?

Marquelle: For me the three institutions that have shaped the pursuit of creatively impacting society undoubtedly include: church (various churches throughout my life), undergraduate (Fayetteville State University), and a small group of friends mostly based in Brooklyn that I affectionately call “Lit Fam”.

• Church: I grew up in the church and didn’t have a choice on going or not (lol). My grandmother forced me to go but later on in life the principles and values I learned within that small church served as “saving graces” during very difficult periods in my life. Furthermore, those principles gave me a certain level of confidence to pursue a few eclectic ideas.
• University: Going to Fayetteville State University constantly reminded me of our ability to “do both.” We can wear the finest of clothing and appreciate the most ratchet music and we can wear joggers and Yeezys and discuss political reform.
• The Lit Fam: My very close friends from Brooklyn, are a group of friends who further reinforced the beauty of being yourself and being comfortable in every aspect of your life. We all have nicknames and I am jokingly called “Magical Marq”. I can’t tell you why (lol), but I can say that they’ve allowed me to be myself and it has spilled over into other aspects of my life. This uninhibited environment propels my thoughts and confirmed one of the first events I helped plan called Tuxedos, Toasts, and Trap.

GRAYTNESS

4. What do you identify as your differentiating factor among other style influencers & creatives?

Marquelle: Great question. You know, I don’t consider myself an influencer at all. I consider myself a “man who’s accepted his right to live life in a very full way”. If I had to say there was something that set me “apart” it is simply understanding that I don’t want to cater to a brand that’s not authentic to myself. A few months ago I decided not to work with any brands as an influencer but rather to use my social media outlets as a forum for sharing stories of not only myself, but also others. Life is not this pretty packaged product that comes with assembly instructions. Life is difficult and it forces you to make very hard decisions. I’ve been candid about my struggles and I use my imagery to tell stories not to sell products and ideas.

5. What advice can you give another millennial or young professional on the importance of bravery in pursuing one’s personal [graytness]?

I’m currently in Qatar working for one of the largest groups on a luxury experience center as a Menswear Buyer and Commercial Lead. My goals are still formulating but right now, I want to be a men’s fashion director for a luxury retailer. I decided to do The New Stereotype because I didn’t feel the need to be hired to do something or be given permission to do something that I was already equipped to do. One of my roommates in college, Steve, once told me “God doesn’t look for ability, but He does look for availability.” Those words will always stick with me because for a while I didn’t know my worth. I was scouring the earth looking for someone to calculate it for me and we know if you leave it up to someone else they will discount you every time. Everything we want in life is on the other side of fear. As long as you’re not afraid to struggle, what you want is within reach. Perhaps one day TNS will be a full-time venture for me, but it isn’t something I do for the money but because I love my people.

6. What are three (3) routine practices you deem important in consistently aligning your purpose with your profession?

• First, looking ahead and what could be and tracing a map back to where I am currently.
• Second, taking time to detach from the world from time to time. I put my phone away, I listen to music, and I just think. I don’t answer messages and I just clear my mind.
• Lastly, talking to God and trying to listen more always helps with my alignment.

(Photo, Top: Aundre Larrow; Photo, Middle: Olushola Bashorun)

EFFORTS/ETHICS

7. The New Stereotype is all about challenging the status quo on the visual perception and visual representation of the Black Man in Westernized society, specifically America, why do you believe this will be a significant pursuit in the next four years?

Marquelle: The New Stereotype highlights and celebrates the many diverse layers of black life in America. I am encouraging my melanated brothers and sisters to take the writing instruments of life and to construct their own narrative. Earlier in the year, I read “The Color Complex: The Politics of Skin Color” by Kathy Russell and I learned about the deep-rooted cultural washing that black men and women have faced throughout the years. I want us to be proud of whom we are in every form and/or shape. The name “the new stereotype” is actually a pun because there isn’t anything new. I am simply sharing the stories of amazing people through a fashion lens and providing a platform. This will continue because there are many stories to share and not enough platforms to share them!  

MOTIVATION

8. What are three (3) impacting scriptures/quotes/mantras that you use to guide your life?

• Proverbs 18:16 – “Your gift will make room for you and bring you before great men.”
• “You can complain because a rose has thorns or you can rejoice because a thorn has roses, it is all about perspective.”
• Let the beauty of what you love be what you do

9. What is one show (episode or series), song, movie, and/or book that has motivated you to constantly push towards your dreams?

Marquelle: “F.D.A.” by Alex Isley changed my life. When I moved to NYC a little over two years ago, I came on a wing and a prayer. I had no money saved up and no true job prospects. I was sleeping on a couch and trying to find my way in life. I remember sitting and listening to that song for about 4 hours and crying repeatedly. The song is about her losing the man that she thought was meant to be her soul mate and trying to make sense of this feeling of it all slowly falling down away. This specific message does not relate to me at all, but the feeling of losing it all did.

What did speak to me is this idea of shedding myself of expectations, worry, and this thought that I needed approval or dependence for completion. Once I brought myself to the core of life, I found out what was important. It was a liberating feeling and sticks with me to this day. It’s a constant reminder of what is truly important. Because of this I don’t need to “flex,” buy certain clothes, live in certain places, or be friends with anyone. I’m not driven by money and I’m focused on what makes me happy.

10. What was one moment of personal failure or personal success that would motivate someone else to persevere towards fulfilling their dream?

Marquelle: On my site, I have a spot called “Last Night I Gave Up.” This blog is about me surrendering to the flow of life and managing my perspective. One day while at work (back in NYC), I was working late and I was very overwhelmed. I was asking my colleague, Kriti, for some support and I just started crying out of nowhere. I was so frustrated with life and I wasn’t very happy at all. I went into the bathroom and inside of a stall I said, “God, I give up. I don’t know what to do!”  I didn’t know what that statement meant at the time, but I later understood it meant to just trust in the process. Understand that it all has a purpose and a part of a much bigger design. These things aren’t happening to you but happening for you. My friend, Porscha, told me about a year ago, “Marquelle, you’ve gotta get your faith up.” And she was right. Faith is like a muscle and in order for it to grow, you have to pull, push, run, jump, and work. Now isn’t the time to throw in the towel, but rather to take the towel, wipe your sweat off and keep pushing. Even I get discouraged sometimes, but I’ll never stop pulling, pushing, running, jumping, and working!

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[GRAYT PEOPLE] Profile Series curates an informational collective of inspirational individuals who have shown what it means to mobilize confidence to challenge [GOOD] and mobilize courage to champion [GRAYT]—highlighting their past, their journey to their [graytness], their efforts and ethics, their motivation, and their aspirations.

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The latter half of the year has brought with it more GRAYT PEOPLE profiles, and rightfully so! From person to person, it’s been great conversing with various individuals I call friends and inspirations. With more profiles to come to close out this year, I wanted to round up 10 quotes from this Fall’s GRAYT PEOPLE profiles to apply to our final stretch of 2016:

1. “Always broaden your horizons through whatever knowledge is available to you. This allows you to look at the world through many different lenses.,” Niala Charles (Reporter)
2. “You cannot get to the big without doing lots and lots of the small. I mean, isn’t the great big desert just lots and lots of grains of sand?” Nneoma Nwankwo (Writer & Researcher)
3. “Whenever I doubt my abilities, I recall the countless individuals who sacrificed to make sure I have a seat at the table of opportunity,” Nduka Nwankwo (Income Analyst & Philanthropist)
4. “Be okay with all of these no’s before the yes! When you learn about timing, that makes so much more of a difference in your daily life.” Milan Dixon (International Model)
5. “As humans we’re not perfect, but we’re not failures either. Don’t look at anything as a failure, but an opportunity to prove yourself,” Niala Charles (Reporter)
6. “If you just keep pressing on in the direction that is right for you, you’ll look back and realize you’ve traveled some distance,” Asia Dean (Healthcare Professional)
7. “Being persistent and staying committed are the main ingredients in pursuing one’s personal [graytness].” Jimdre Westbrook (Author & Entrepreneur)
8. “There is also great value in being consistent but developing the skill of patience. Every game is won with patience. When you don’t get the outcome you want, learn the lesson, refine your approach, incorporate the lessons and try again!” Nduka Nwankwo (Income Analyst & Philanthropist)
9. “Remember that the journey is as significant as the destination.,” Asia Dean (Healthcare Professional)
10. “The great news is that God has a master plan for you too! Stay humble. Stay hungry. Stay focused!” Jimdre Westbrook (Author & Entrepreneur)

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[GRAYT PEOPLE] Profile Series curates an informational collective of inspirational individuals who have shown what it means to mobilize confidence to challenge [GOOD] and mobilize courage to champion [GRAYT]—highlighting their past, their journey to their [graytness], their efforts and ethics, their motivation, and their aspirations.

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Occasionally, I come across an individual on social media and become inspired by the moves they share via their platforms, such happened with Steve Dunlap Jr. Currently CEO of Made Properties, a Real Estate Investor, and teacher in the heart of south side of Chicago (Chicago: his hometown), Dunlap’s hustle has thoroughly inspired me throughout my time of following him on Instagram.

With approximately 5 minutes of your time, join me as Steve’s GRAYT PEOPLE profile cultivates an inspirational adamancy and persistency in going after your dreams—sharing on his life, journey, [graytness,] efforts & motivations.

INTRODUCTION

1. What is it about Real Estate and Education that compels you to pursue them dually?

Steve and I opened our conversation on what compelled him to pursue Real Estate and education, dually. Steve explained that education granted him the opportunity to make an impact on the Chicago community and challenge the negative stigmas about the kids in his city. Simultaneously, real estate granted Steve the opportunity to profitably flip many of the abandoned homes that cultivated negative stigmas throughout Chicago, by “[changing] the houses and put[ting] families in these homes” to ultimately “change the neighborhood.”

2. How were you able to surpass any of your own doubts or the doubts of others to embark on such a journey?

As the first to graduate college, one of the first to pursuit entrepreneurial ventures, and one of the first to actively aspire to escape the lower middle class socioeconomic ceiling within his family, Steve’s mindset and subsequent actions acknowledged a need for a shift within his family and within those neighborhoods he wanted to change.

Steve’s pursuit of success yielded a fearlessness. Steve’s fear of being regular or unsuccessful continuously evicted any habitation for doubt. How did Steve continuously do this, he attributes his ambition and perseverance to “investing in myself, learning, and destiny itself”

JOURNEY

3. What are three defining moments that strategically prepared you to flourish as the CEO of MADE Properties and your other entrepreneurial ventures, such as the New Chicago?

Three defining experiences in Steve’s life contributed to his continuous pursuit of success:

• Being an athlete: As a walk-on Division I college athlete, Steve explained, “I had to prove myself, to coaches to players and to self [that] I’m supposed to be here.”
• Parenthood: Proving himself further transcended into parenthood, as balancing college and fatherhood further re-enhanced Dunlap’s pursuit of cultivating value for those around him.
• Father’s cancer diagnosis. In 2015, seeing his father fight and seeing his father live, ultimately fueled what Dunlap identifies as his differentiating factor among other real estate investors and entrepreneurs.

GRAYTNESS

4. What do you identify as your differentiating factor among other real estate investors or entrepreneurs?

Put simply, Dunlap emphasizes “Purpose over passion,” where his purpose continuously drives him to maintain a student mindset where he’s “Not [being] outworked & always learning!]. That is Dunlap’s identity.

5. What advice can you give to an aspiring real estate investors or entrepreneur about the art of branding yourself?

Identity is significant when it comes to what he believes as integral to branding yourself; Steve shares, “You can be yourself forever. But as soon as you try to be someone else, if it’s not in your veins, you’re going to fall off!”

6. What are three (3) routine practices you implement to nurture and sharpen your differentiating factor?

Sharing on ways he does not fall off, Steve shares three routine practices he implements to nurture his strengths and sharpen his weaknesses, exclaiming:

• “I put myself throughout pain everyday”
• “Staying connected with people”
• “Staying connected to God”

EFFORTS/ETHICS

7. What and/or who inspires you to excel beyond [good] and embrace your [graytness]?

Whether it be throughout working out, reading a book out of discipline, or doing more research out of discipline, Steve is adamant about excelling beyond [good] and embracing his [grayt]; when it comes to the individuals who inspired him to do so, Steve shares:

• “My Dad”
• “Jesus”
• “Puffy (Sean “Diddy” Combs”)”

8. What makes you challenge the status quo in the housing market and/or in life?

Noting that real estate can be an “old man sport,” the inspiration from his Dad, Jesus, and Diddy fuels his presence within the Real Estate Sector—his presence being what challenges the status quo. In Steve’s quest to remain “young & hungry,” he further shares the importance of, “[Staying] all the way locked in to those who have done it before me; never too good to learn. Always learning and always reading; how’d they get it and add to their skills.”

MOTIVATION:

9. What are three (3) defining philosophies that you use to guide your life?

Being young, hungry, and eager to learn, Steve navigates his life with these three prevalent quotes:

• “Get a little bit better, everyday”
• “Don’t stop, don’t quit”
• “On to perfect manhood”

10. What was one moment of personal failure or personal success that would motivate someone else to continuously press towards fulfilling their dream?

After sharing that the “Wolf on Wall Street” movie and Jay-Z’s “You Don’t Know” song were two motivational pushes in attaining his goals and dreams, Steve shares one moment of divine difficulty that further shaped his perspective on attaining his goals and dreams.

Thinking back to his first Real Estate deal, Steve shared, in conclusion of our conversation, that he encountered faulty contractors, over budget spending, unexpected death of lawyers, excessive time expended in closing the deal and more. Eventually closing the deal, Steve reflected on the fact that when, “Purpose [is]  behind me…nothing can stop the purpose!”

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[GRAYT PEOPLE] Profile Series curates an informational collective of inspirational individuals who have shown what it means to mobilize confidence to challenge [GOOD] and mobilize courage to champion [GRAYT]—highlighting their past, their journey to their [graytness], their efforts and ethics, their motivation, and their aspirations.

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Throughout November, I conversed with some of my close friends who I’m continuously thankful for, as the subjects for the GRAYT PEOPLE Profile Series. Rounding out November’s selection is Niala Charles, a fellow Pepperdine Wave and a Reporter/Fill-In Anchor for KTTC TV in Minnesota.

Niala and I go back towards the earlier years of undergraduate at Pepperdine University. Essentially becoming like brother and sister in our time abroad in London in 2012, Niala’s innate hustle has continued to inspire me. Graduating Pepperdine with dual degrees in Economics and Journalism, Niala is a woman of determination and perseverance. With approximately 5 minutes of your time, Niala and I converse about  her life, her journey, her career, insights on our friendship, and more in an effort of “making your good, GRAYT”:

INTRODUCTION

1. You and I have come a long way since Freshmen Year at Pepperdine—both mentally, socially, and professionally—what’s continuously kept you pursuing journalism?

NIALA: Honestly, I think it’s my longing to be “grayt” (didn’t take me too long to use your catch phrase! haha). My entire life I’ve felt that I’ve had a larger purpose than myself. Since middle school I’ve known that Journalism was the way I was supposed to do it. Journalism gives me the opportunity to put my listening, communication, and storytelling skills to good use. I’ve always had a natural curiosity for “hot topics” so Journalism allows me to use my talents to tell others’ stories while quenching my curious nature. I also love that a Journalist’s work is never done–there is always another angle or story to chase. It keeps me going and entertained along the way.

JOURNEY

2. During the period of time after you graduated and when you landed your KTTC TV reporter/fill-in anchor position, how were you able to surpass any of your own doubts or the doubts of others to embark on chasing your goals?

NIALA: Post-graduation was a very difficult time for me. My goal was to have a job by graduation, and it just didn’t work out for  me. During that time I became very impatient about entering my next stage of life. I began to doubt myself and my purpose. However, I was able to overcome these doubts by keeping faith and taking action. I continued to believe in my purpose, and God’s ability to get me there. I took advantage of my time off and found a non-journalism job. I used it to save money as I continued my search for a Journalism job. After 5 months it happened, and I packed my bags for Minnesota.

3. With being raised on the East and West Coast, what are three (3) values you have brought with you from your upbringing that are significant in shaping your perseverance towards fulfilling your purpose today?

• Determination: I was raised by Haitian immigrants. Both of my parents moved to New York from Haiti. I spent the first half of my life on the East Coast. So with that I think I inherited an aggressive determination to succeed, no matter my circumstances.
• Openness: I moved to California when I was 10. My time there gave me an open mind and appreciation for diversity and all the different stories that it brings.
• Authenticity: Truth and honesty.

GRAYTNESS

4. What do you identify as your differentiating factor among other reporters & anchors?

NIALA: I don’t think this necessarily differentiates me from every single reporter and anchor, but despite the pressures of being “on-camera” I remain being myself authentically. This allows me to be a person first, and Journalist second.  It keeps humanity within all of my stories.

5. Considering your Bachelor’s Degree in Economics & Broadcast Journalism, what advice can you give on the value of diversifying your skills and knowledge set as a way of pursuing one’s personal [graytness]?

NIALA: It’s important to always broaden your horizons through whatever knowledge is available to you. This allows you to look at the world through many different lenses. As a Journalist, the way we tell stories and interact with people is always changing. It is important to have the tools to adapt in every profession. You never want to be a one-trick pony.

6. What are three (3) routine practices you implement to ensure your purpose in life consistently aligns with the manifestation of your dreams

• Communication: Constant communication with my closest friends and family keeps me centered- and gives me a constant reminder of who I am and want to be.
• Diversifying Your Inspirations: Watching the news from various sources to learn how to perfect my craft.
• Being Aware: Staying informed

EFFORTS & ETHICS

7. You bring added flavor to Minnesota television screens, what do you aspire your legacy or impact to be, when you expand upon your skills elsewhere?

NIALA: Sometimes I get stopped by people who tell me how much it means to see someone who looks like me on their TV screens. That means a lot, because growing up, I didn’t really have that. But at the end of the day I want to be remembered as the Journalist who cared deeply about the integrity of her stories and the people in them. I also want to be known as a person that went after her dreams and created her own path no matter how many people told her she couldn’t.

MOTIVATION

8. What are three (3) impacting scriptures/quotes/mantras that you use to guide your life?

• Philippians 4:13 I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me
• Dream big or not at all
• My new found favorite- “When they go low, we go high!”

9. If you had to choose one award show, what award show would you want to anchor with yourself, Nicole (mutual friend), and I?

NIALA: I would have to say our trio would best be suited for post-awards coverage because of all of our hilarious/shady commentary! I’d have to go with a revamped version of Fashion Police.

10. What was one moment of personal failure or personal success that would motivate someone else to continuously press towards fulfilling their dream?

NIALA: As humans we’re not perfect, but we’re not failures either. Don’t look at anything as a failure, but an opportunity to prove yourself.

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When I met Asia at Pepperdine University five years ago, I never knew that she’d become everything she means to me today. This month’s GRAYT PEOPLE Profile Series explores the stories of some of closest & dopest friends, Asia being one of them.

As a fellow Las Vegas resident, somehow we both ended up attending Pepperdine University and both leading the Black Student Association at Pepperdine. Divine indeed, as throughout the course of friendship she’s unknowingly encouraged me to ride the wave of life, no matter the size of the wave. As a millennial, a wife, a mother to three, a friend to many, and a healthcare professional on track to transform lives, I believe  Asia can do the same for you, as we chop it up about her life, journey, and career.

INTRODUCTION:

1. At Pepperdine, you to engaged in different science courses and hands-on work with medicine. What compelled you to work in Public Health & Administration versus the more hands-on, patient interaction aspect of the health sector?

ASIA: While pursuing my Bachelor’s Degree in Sports Medicine, my educational focus was primarily in the biological sciences and I put a good amount of time into gaining direct patient care experience in pursuit of a career in the medical field. At the same time, I became increasingly involved in culturally-focused student affairs organizations, such as the Black Student Association and Women of Color. With social justice issues at the forefront of my thoughts and discussions, I came to a better understanding and appreciation of the role social determinants of health play. I realized I could continue doing things that I love and am good at, in the programmatic and partnership development sense, while directly and indirectly affecting the health of populations. After two experiences abroad, it was pretty much sealed in my mind that I should be working toward public health on a global scale.

JOURNEY:

2. You’ve raised a family & obtained your bachelor’s & masters simultaneously, how were you able to surpass any of your own doubts or the doubts of others to embark on chasing your goals in the health sector?

ASIA: I don’t think I ever have enough time to really let the doubt sink in. When people ask how I manage it, I have to be honest and say “barely!” – but I’ve only gotten this far by reminding myself that I’m my own greatest limitation, and I don’t have to stick to a “traditional” way of doing things.  If you just keep pressing on in the direction that is right for you, you’ll look back and realize you’ve traveled some distance. Career-wise, it can be overwhelming, rapidly changing, fast-paced, but I’ll never struggle with finding meaning in playing a part of people living longer, healthier lives.

3. What are three (3) values you have brought with you from your upbringing that are significant in shaping your perseverance towards fulfilling your purpose today?

• Kindness.  No matter the result or reciprocation, I just always want to know that my intentions are good. I’m also not good at holding grudges, it consumes so much energy and more often than not I find that kindness wins.
• Consistence. If I make a commitment, whether to someone else or to myself, I don’t want it to be a question of whether I will hold up my end of the bargain or give up halfway through. I’ve learned my own capacity and try to focus on that which I know I’ll be consistent and dependable.
• Adventure. Doing something new, being somewhere new and all of the emotions and challenges that come with it really help me appreciate life. Adventure often brings about curiosity, determination and courage.  I’m laughing because my three-year-old daughter is singing “I can be anything! I can do anything!” at the top of her lungs right now.

GRAYTNESS

4. What do you identify as your differentiating factor among other healthcare professionals?

ASIA: I’m still in my career’s infancy, but I feel I’ve come a long way in this short time.  I’ve ended up where I’m at by not limiting my aspirations to experiences that would exclude all of the attributes and talents that I feel make me “me.”

5. I know I am not capable of raising a family and pursuing a college degree, yet you succeed. What advice can you give on the importance of applying all of life’s experiences & lessons in pursuing one’s personal [graytness]?

• Don’t give up when things seem hard.
• Remember that the journey is as significant as the destination: The day-to-day can feel like a constant uphill battle, but when I think back to any season of life I’m flooded with good memories and positive thoughts.
• Recognize that you can’t and shouldn’t do it alone: Chris (husband) and I have really grown up together, and doing so much life with another person really teaches you about who you are. I think the biggest takeaway is to remain (graytful) and to remember that you can make your life whatever you dream for it to be.

6. What are three (3) routine practices you implement to ensure your purpose in life consistently aligns with the trajectory of your profession?

• Listing: I make lists and cross things off as they get done. It helps me to take things step-by-step and also reminds me that I’m making progress.
• Maintain good relationships. We need positive human connection – that’s how the world becomes a better place. Professionally, it works the same way. I’d much rather work well with others, get and give help along the way and ultimately share in successes vs. bulldozing my way through and ending up alone.
• Prioritization: I’m not super-organized, but I know what needs to get done and in what order. I also realize that my brain has limited capacity so I prioritize what I need to store. So until life gets simpler or my mind gets bigger I’ll keep prioritizing my thoughts lol.

EFFORTS/ETHICS

7. You work in the more business side of healthcare in Las Vegas, how do you contribute to surpassing the status quo in the healthcare industry?

I have to remain cognizant of opportunities that arise and try not to pass them off without giving some level of consideration. From a business perspective, that doesn’t mean that every deal make sense or that every idea is plausible. I can think of a lot of personal and professional experiences I could easily have brushed off/not pursued that ended up being really good decisions.

MOTIVATION

8. What are three (3) impacting scriptures/quotes/mantras that you use to guide your life?

ASIA: Our time on earth is relatively short. I think if I keep these things in mind I’ll be fulfilling God’s purpose for my life:

• Be inspired
• Live intentionally
• Love unconditionally.

9. I admire your ability to be a wife, mother to Destiny’s Child (3 daughters), and career-driven woman at such a young age. Who is another woman who you resonate with?

ASIA: My mom. She’s the do-it-all woman I never knew I’d grow up to be. She was a young mother, wife, career woman etc. I’ve seen her persevere through a lot, accomplish a lot and ultimately maintain a positive outlook. Even as we see many things differently, I can’t think of anyone that I resonate with more. She really does work tirelessly for her family and I wouldn’t hold myself to any lower standard.

10. What was one moment of personal failure or personal success that would motivate someone else to continuously press towards fulfilling their dream?

ASIA: I became a mother at a young age, and some probably considered that a failure, given the high hopes and aspirations others had for me. I never let it be a failure, though, and actually having someone to motivate me to be the best example I could be, helped me press on. I can begin to feel like I’m failing (being responsible for a family is SO much pressure!) but when I see the way the girls treat others, and how they love and look out for each other, I know we’ll be just fine.

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[GRAYT PEOPLE] Profile Series curates an informational collective of inspirational individuals who have shown what it means to mobilize confidence to challenge [GOOD] and mobilize courage to champion [GRAYT]—highlighting their past, their journey to their [graytness], their efforts and ethics, their motivation, and their aspirations.

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This November for the GRAYT PEOPLE Profile Series, I’m excited to converse with people who I am beyond #ThankFor, some of my best friends! Nduka and I became friends close to five years ago, while both attending Pepperdine University and serving Pepperdine BSA. At the end of the day, he’s been nothing less of a big brother I never had. Someone who’s commitment to his purpose inspires you to commit to your purpose! Someone who’s drive to be his very best inspires you to be your very best!

Rightfully so, Nduka’s contributions as a Fixed Income Analyst at Wells Fargo, Chief Financial Officer for Growth With Nigeria, and Global Shaper with the World Economic Forum exhibits the profound value of his hard work!

With only 5-6 minutes of your time, Nduka shares more on his journey, his [graytness], his efforts & ethics, and some motivation to get you throughout the week, below:

INTRODUCTION

1. What do you bring to Wells Fargo that makes the fulfillment of your Fixed Income Analyst responsibilities worthwhile and/or enjoyable?

NDUKA: My training in creative writing and liberal arts taught me one clear lesson: everything has a story. In the investing business, we often talk about numbers and financial metrics; I bring a lens of discussing and evaluating metrics within the context of a company’s story. I enjoy learning about companies, why they exist and how they plan to have impact on the world.

JOURNEY

2. Corporate America isn’t the most populated sector of America by minorities. How were you able to surpass any of your own doubts or the doubts of others to embark on impacting Corporate America?

NDUKA: Whenever I doubt my abilities, I recall the countless individuals who sacrificed to make sure I have a seat at the table of opportunity. My grandfather was the first person in my village to attend elementary school and with an elementary school education, he and my grandmother were able to raise children who all have a minimum of Master’s degrees. If he can accomplish such an incredible feat with his level of education, I have no excuse. I call on his courage and bravery when I doubt my own abilities. I also think it is my responsibility to populate less diverse rooms with people of diverse backgrounds and to do that I must be in those settings and use my knowledge and influence to bring in others.

3. What are three (3) values you have brought with you from your upbringing that are significant in shaping your perseverance towards fulfilling your purpose today?

• Start with Prayer: Whenever I have encountered challenges that seemed insurmountable, my Mother taught me to commit it to God and trust that it will be handled. I am guided by the belief that there is a supreme calling on my life and no one event can alter my calling.
• Start Now: My parents have been mentoring and financing other people’s education since they were college students. I refuse to wait until I am the CEO of ‘XYZ’ company to start uplifting others in my community. With my current education and work experience, I will mentor, coach, advocate, raise money and so on. Those are all things I can do today, so I followed my parents footsteps.
• Embrace the Struggle: My Dad always says that anyone who wants to be successful must be ready to struggle. I grew up understanding success, on any level, will be a struggle but embracing that struggle makes the journey all the more enjoyable.

GRAYTNESS:
[THEJOSHUAGRAY.COM] defines [graytness] as, “The state of mobilizing confidence to excel beyond “good” and courage to excellently embrace [grayt]—best explained by the actualization of an individual’s potential, purpose, and perseverance to collectively impact their surroundings, with distinction.

4. What is your graytness? What do you identify as your differentiating factor among other financiers?

NDUKA: My liberal arts training is definitely a differentiating factor. The world is interconnected, so I constantly think about the way any given financial transaction will impact society.

5. Considering your commendable placement within Goldman Sachs formerly & Wells Fargo currently, along with your philanthropic efforts with Grow with Nigeria, what advice can you give on the importance of hard work and diligence in pursuing one’s personal [graytness]?

NDUKA: The biggest dreams can be distilled into mini-steps. Anyone seeking to reach the peak of their personal greatness should break that goal into smaller steps and do a little bit every day.

6. Assuming you would like to expand outside of your finance profession currently, what are three (3) routine practices you implement to ensure your purpose in life will consistently align with the trajectory of your profession?

• Continuous Community Engagement: I am a passionate volunteer, especially with organizations that are impacting educational access and outcomes for under-served youth.
• Write & Reflect: I have kept a journal since college. I visit my previous journal entries every few months and remind myself of who I am and what I was called to do in the world.
• Attend Sunday Service: I am committed to the church as an institution of change in the world. At the end of sermon every Sunday, the Pastor at my church says “If you see someone that has fallen down, do not look down on them with a frown, but instead, look to bring them to your level and above, that you may walk side-by-side as equals in the world.” Those words are the lens through which I view my purpose in the world.

EFFORTS/ETHICS

7. Within your occupation, you practically sail in the sea of capitalism with greed possibly coiling its waves. Day in and day out, how do you challenge the status quo of the finance sector?

NDUKA: Business’ purpose in the world is to serve society. I fully embrace the fact that a business is accountable to its shareholders; however, I also think business is accountable to society and that those two parties are equally important. I challenge any view that accountability to society is a lower priority.

MOTIVATION

8. What are three (3) impacting scriptures/quotes/mantras that you use to guide your life?

• Galatians 5:13 – You, my brothers and sisters, were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge the flesh; rather, serve one another humbly in love.
• “Do what you can, with what you have, where you are.” – Theodore Roosevelt
• “We are what we repeatedly do; excellence, then, is not an act but a habit.” —Aristotle

9. We have been friends for nearly 5 years, if we were on a reality show or our friendship were to be imitated through art, what do you think someone could learn from our camaraderie?

NDUKA: There is no greater gift than the gift of brotherhood. Having individuals who see your vision and encourage you to leap beyond your current abilities is essential to personal growth—that’s what people can learn from our friendship.

10. What was one moment of personal failure or personal success that would motivate someone else to continuously press towards fulfilling their dream?

NDUKA: Recruiting for full-time roles in financial services out of undergrad was extremely challenging. By virtue of the limited amount of roles, the rejection is high. I learned to value my effort and celebrate those efforts—regardless of the outcomes. There is also great value in being consistent but developing the skill of patience. Every game is won with patience. When you don’t get the outcome you want, learn the lesson, refine your approach, incorporate the lessons and try again!

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[GRAYT PEOPLE] Profile Series curates an informational collective of inspirational individuals who have shown what it means to mobilize confidence to challenge [GOOD] and mobilize courage to champion [GRAYT]—highlighting their past, their journey to their [graytness], their efforts and ethics, their motivation, and their aspirations.

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When the world aims to define the pace of living, it’s often hard to find the will and The strength to live at your own pace. Jimdre Westbrook, best-selling author & entrepreneur, has made an impactful living out of encouraging others to live at their own pace–whether it be embracing virginity, embracing professional success, or walking into destiny.

After catching one of his interviews on KVBC Channel 3 News Las Vegas, I did more research and realized I came across Jimdre’s story last year. In the span of that one year, he’s released a best-selling book Hashtag Motivation & Hashtag Love, opened his flagship store for his LAYOP brand in Container Park Las Vegas, and much more. Excitingly, I had the opportunity to learn more about Jimdre’s journey, his personal graytness, and ascertain concrete perspectives for success. With 10 questions, explore Jimdre’s GRAYT PEOPLE profile, below:

INTRODUCTION:

1. What compelled you to pursue a career and/or vocation comprised of writing best-selling books, “On Time Success” motivational coaching, and entrepreneur of lifestyle brand, LAYOP?

JIMDRE: Since the age of 16, I’ve always wanted to do my own thing, my way. I never wanted to fit inside a box made by other people. Becoming an entrepreneur seemed ideal so I went with my gut and made that my ultimate mission. At first, I just wanted to become a clothing designer. People like Russell Simmons, Puff Daddy and Jay-Z were my initial inspirations. These three successful businessmen looked like me. They talked like me. They were from inner cities just like me. Each of them made the impossible happen, which led me to believe I could do the same. I always knew it would be extremely challenging to pull off entrepreneurship successfully but it never scared me away. The idea of achieving while striving for greatness was too attractive to say no.

Once LAYOP was able to position itself within the top ranks of Las Vegas lifestyle streetwear brands (we recently opened up our flagship store inside Downtown Container Park in Downtown Las Vegas), I was able to create another platform, Worth The Wait Guy. This was not a part of any of my original plans. WTWG was God’s engineering – He’s the head architect. I’ve been so blessed by the entire experience of sharing my story as a 32-year-old virgin living in Sin City. I’ve went from blogger-motivational speaker-best selling author-life coach all in 2.5 years. God is good!

JOURNEY:

2. How were you able to surpass any of your own doubts or the doubts of others to embark on journey?

JIMDRE: My foundation and support system allowed me to surpass and overcome any doubts in life. God is my everything – He’s my rock. He’s the reason why I’m still alive today. With God on my side, I’ll always be good to go, no matter what I face in life.

I made two life-shaping decisions as a teenager. At 14, I made the decision to wait for sex until marriage. At 16, I made the decision to become an entrepreneur. Throughout the years, I’ve had hundreds of people tell me I would be a failure at achieving both feats. I never listened to the negative loud noise because my positive support system has always been louder.

Two months after turning 30, I was involved in a hit-and-run car accident by a drunk driver. It was the scariest thing I’ve ever experienced in my life. I didn’t see it coming. My life literally went into slow-motion like it was a movie scene. I could have died a 30-year-old virgin. I could have left this precious world without saying goodbye to my family and friends and hello to my future wife and kids. Surviving that horrific crash with only minor injuries, I don’t have any doubt that I will continue to make my dreams and goals come true.

3. What are three (3) values you have brought with you from your upbringing that are significant in shaping your perseverance towards fulfilling your purpose today?

1. Respect Everyone. My parents always preached about respect. They commanded and demanded respect. They were and still are my role models. My sister and I were truly blessed to have the model of respect living inside our household. They treated everyone with respect and it was great to see that growing up. They never had to be evil or fake to get respect. They were real and genuine and respect came naturally.
2. Education is Key. My parents were college professors and education was everything. In order for us to play outside, we had to take care of business first (homework and chores). Getting good grades were expected and if we ever had any issues in school, our parents actively participated in making sure we received adequate help. No matter what career field we entered, we needed to understand the importance of education and use it to our advantage.
3. Like those who like you. This one is my dad’s favorite line. It seems so simple, yet it’s difficult to follow at times. We’ve all been there before where we like someone or something that doesn’t like us back/like us as much as we like them. We end up trying too hard or overextending ourselves for no reason. When we do this, we neglect the things or people who really care about us.

GRAYTNESS

4. What do you identify as your differentiating factor among other authors & entrepreneurs?

JIMDRE: I believe my purpose and passion are my differentiating factors among other authors & entrepreneurs. Everyone has their own purpose and passion in life – even if you haven’t discovered it yet. For me, my purpose is to be a true testimony that living life at your own pace actually works. I have faith in all mankind that living at your own pace is attainable. The powerful choice is yours – you have to make the decision for yourself and be consistent with your choice every day.

Because of my purpose, I’m passionate to deliver on that daily purpose. I feel that I’m responsible for always being an example of LAYOP. Each day, I work tirelessly improving and getting better and better. I’ve accomplished many things but the job is not complete. I’m humbled by the journey every day.

5. Considering your commendable Worth The Wait journey & tremendous professional success , what advice can you give on the importance of persistency and commitment in pursuing one’s personal [graytness]?

JIMDRE: Being persistent and staying committed are the main ingredients in pursuing one’s personal [graytness]. It’s like baking a pound cake or frying fried chicken, you need flour and some type of seasoning to make each properly. That’s what persistency and commitment are to achieving [graytness] in one’s life. Without the two, I would have never been able to walk this walk with God. I would have given up years ago if this was all on me – I’m not strong enough by myself. Being consistent and having the utmost faith in His word helped me tremendously.

6. What are three (3) routine practices you implement to ensure your purpose in life consistently aligns with your profession?

1. I always start and end my day with prayers. Sometimes I might pray during the day. You can never have enough prayer in your life. It’s my personal time with God and I need that in order to be the best version of myself.
2. I train my mind, body and soul daily. I love working out daily. I love writing and reading motivational quotes. I love being around positive people. Each day I make a conscious effort to get my mind, body and soul in shape.
3. I appreciate life every day. I want to get the most out of each day. In order to do so, I must take full advantage of the moment aggressively. All positive vibes. No regrets.

EFFORTS & ETHICS

7. What compels you to challenge the status quo of fast-paced living, in Las Vegas & nationally throughout society?

JIMDRE: I believe we should all challenge the status quo daily. We were all placed on this earth to do so much more than follow the status quo. The greatest part of me being WTWG is I get to be ME. This isn’t a character. This isn’t me playing a movie role. This is all I know and who I’ve been my entire life. I enjoy challenging us all, including myself, to be great in everything we do.

I was told by one of my good friends that I was the antithesis of Las Vegas and it’s 100% true. I’m honored and humbled to show the world that other side of normalcy.

MOTIVATION

8. What are three (3) impacting scriptures/quotes/mantras that you use to guide your life?

1. Romans 12:1-2. It’s my favorite bible verse because it highlights exactly what I’m going through every single day. I’m giving my body to Christ as a living sacrifice and allowing Him to renew my mind through transformation. Pretty cool stuff!
2. Live At Your Own Pace. I think you guys get the point by now lol!
3. #StriveForGreatness. I use this hashtag a lot when posting via social media. It’s a hashtag LeBron James uses frequently. I stand by the #StriveForGreatness movement. At the end of the day, that’s what it’s all about. Day in and day out, climbing that mountain of greatness until we reach the top.

9. What is one show (episode or series), song, movie, and/or book that has motivated you to motivate others through fulfilling your dreams?

JIMDRE: There are so many! However, one that sticks out is HBO’s “How To Make It In America”. That show was LIT before Lit was a thing. It was the true story of the spirit of LAYOP Clothing. It was so inspiring and real. Praying we finally get a Season 3 of Ben and Cam!

10. What was one moment of personal failure or personal success that would motivate someone else to continuously press towards fulfilling their dream?

JIMDRE: When I first launched Worth The Wait Guy, I wrote a weekly blog post for an entire year, without missing a week. I was very consistent and always talked about different topics each week. I didn’t know who was reading my blog posts! There were times when I didn’t want to post anything. The creative juices just weren’t there some nights but I still got it done. Because of my hard work and dedication to the blog, I was researched by Steve Harvey’s production team to be a guest on the Steve Harvey show. I passed the test and appeared on the show for a virgin dating segment.

After that episode aired, my life completely changed. I was featured on essence.com that weekend and received over 300 messages in one day. From that point, I knew God had a BIG plan for WTWG and my life. The great news is that he has a master plan for you too! Stay humble. Stay hungry. Stay focused!

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[GRAYT PEOPLE] Profile Series curates an informational collective of inspirational individuals who have shown what it means to mobilize confidence to challenge [GOOD] and mobilize courage to champion [GRAYT]—highlighting their past, their journey to their [graytness], their efforts and ethics, their motivation, and their aspirations.

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Contrary to popular belief, there are people striving and thriving beyond the Las Vegas Strip, in the Las Vegas valley. There are dreamers dreaming of something much larger than the strip. Milan Dixon proved to be one of those Las Vegas dreamers NOW residing in Los Angeles and thriving in the global modelling world.

More than another model or another inspiration, Dixon is a family friend. Milan’s mother has been my mother’s hairstylist for over two decades. Naturally, when Milan started making her mark in the fashion industry—whether it be her Elle Magazine South Africa cover, billboards across Las Vegas, or beauty cosmetic campaigns—my mother would share the excitement and share the news.

With the grandeur of her news growing weekly, I’m thrilled I had the opportunity to converse with Milan about her modelling journey, her personal graytness, mantras she lives by, and advice she has for aspiring models and/or millennials about building a brand and building a legacy.

INTRODUCTION:

Eager to learn about what compelled Milan to pursue a career in modelling, we opened the conversation with Milan detailing her foray into modelling as a journey to identity. Taller and thinner than most, Milan felt as if it wouldn’t hurt to try modelling. In an industry that is built on confidence, Milan noted that she, “started with such low confidence.” Nevertheless, her willingness to test out what others told her when she was younger—that modelling was her lane to strut—paid off, noting that she “Gave it a chance and it worked, [even helping] me with the confidence.”

JOURNEY:

What are your earliest and/or fondest memories of modelling before you booked your first major modelling gig?

Milan’s quest for identifying a world in which she fit in, was finally fulfilled in one of her fondest modelling memories—booking an exclusive with Paul Mitchell. Beyond stereotypical confidence boosters—lights, cameras, attentive hairstylists, makeup artists, stylists, etc.—it’s Dixon’s awareness and revelation of her client’s happiness that proved to her that she was, “Really doing it! What I’m supposed to do & I’m doing it right!”

What values have you brought with you from the beginning of your modelling journey to shape your perseverance towards fulfilling your purpose?

Milan has “done a lot of cool things.” Nevertheless, her faithfulness to the small things is what has brought to fruition the BIG things in her life! When conversing with Milan about the values she has carried with her throughout her modelling journey, humility and resilience proved to be major keys in unlocking Milan’s success.

Growing up, Milan noted, “In high school, I didn’t really try that much, but I was okay with being mediocre” As Milan forayed into modelling, her appreciation for her craft began to foster humility and resilience. Sharing on humility, Milan admitted that she doesn’t book every job, as “You win some, lose some.” Nevertheless, throughout time, she’s learned with resilience you have to “Be okay with all of these no’s before the yes! When you learn about timing, that makes so much more of a difference in your daily life. Go with the flow and you start to book more”

GRAYTNESS: The state of mobilizing confidence to excel beyond “good” and courage to excellently embrace [grayt]—best explained by the actualization of an individual’s potential, purpose, and perseverance to collectively impact their surroundings, with distinction.

What do you identify as your differentiating factor among other models? What is your [graytness]?

Milan’s personality is what sets her apart from your average model, noting that that her willingness to work—fused with her humility and resilience—takes her far. Sharing on her personal graytness, Milan confessed, “it makes the difference when you show that you have the work ethic. Giv[ing] my all to everything, small job, large job, as if it were my first job.”

What advice can you give to an aspiring model or millennial about using their gifts and talents to build a brand/legacy for themselves?

As a model and individual willing to go hard on whatever task or job she is given, Milan more importantly shared that there is significance in patience, perseverance, and gratitude when it comes to using your gifts and talents to build a brand for yourself, expressing:

1. Be Patient
2. Keep Going & Always Show Up!
3. Be Happy for the small things

What are three (3) routine practices you implement to nurture and sharpen your differentiating factor?

Milan dropped further gems when sharing three (3) routine practices she implements to nurture and sharpen her graytness, expressing the importance of:

1. Coming back to who you are: “Be comfortable with it! Be okay in that!”
2. Separating yourself from the industry: “Make sure you have a lot of time alone!”
3. Just showing up: “Personality always wins. Just be you! Just as long as you own it!”

(Photo Source: Photogenics LA)

EFFORTS & ETHICS

What and/or who do you attribute your [graytness] to?

If you’re wondering what gives Milan her zeal—when she feels the heat of rejection or criticism—it comes from her mother, Milan’s “go-to for everything.” As the woman who “knows the right things to say [amidst] all the cries & depressed moments about work,” Lonnie—Milan’s mother—is the cheerleader keeping Milan “in a good place.”

What makes you challenge the status quo in the fashion industry or withstand any adversity you may experience in challenging the lack of diversity in the fashion industry?

With that good place as the foundation, Milan goes beyond challenging the status quo in the fashion industry with her uniquely beautiful features (her Godiva chocolate complexion, her crown of a fro, or her signature gap). Milan challenges the status quo and withstands any adversity, with her persistence. Exemplified in her Fashion Week chronicles (one of the most cutthroat times for her), Milan’s willingness to “Just keep going! Just keep doing it! Show up!” is her way of challenging diversity within the fashion industry!

MOTIVATION:

What are three (3) defining philosophies that you try to live by?

Understandably, the modelling world is not the most encouraging or uplifting of worlds—considering representation issues, pay issues, or issues with genuineness. Nevertheless, Milan abides by three defining philosophies that aim to push her life forward, including:

1. Being & staying positive: “The older I get, I really believe that. Everything that happened in my career has happened because I put it out there.”
2. Occupy your mind more on other things: Don’t put so much into [the overwhelming things in life] that it’s controlling your whole day!”
3. “Spend more time on educating and empowering yourself!”

What was one moment of failure or success that would motivate someone else?

In closing, Milan shared on the importance of timing when it comes to internalizing a failure or a success. Models deal with rejection all of the time; Milan is no different, highlighting that, “Failures are overwhelming.” Nevertheless, Milan goes on to share that, “The highs are so much better because you were so low.”

At times we can’t control our failures or our success, Milan shares that when it comes to timing and realizing the manifestation of our dreams, sometimes, “It has nothing to do with you, and once you understand that, you’d be okay and willing to put yourself out there even more!” Even if we have all of the support—managers, publicists, agents, mothers, parents—it is our job to just go, and “Just do it!”

Evident in her ever-growing list of accomplishments, Milan Dixon is a living testament to the idea of “Just going & just doing it!” The only thing we have to lose, are our dreams! Are you willing to lose your dreams? If not, “Just. Go. Do. It!”

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[GRAYT PEOPLE] Profile Series curates an informational collective of inspirational individuals who have shown what it means to mobilize confidence to challenge [GOOD] and mobilize courage to champion [GRAYT]—highlighting their past, their journey to their [graytness], their efforts and ethics, their motivation, and their aspirations.

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Nneoma Nwankwo is a writer, researcher, and the sister to my good friend, Nduka Nwankwo. The dynamic nature of friendships is that you potentially acquire a portal into their network of associates, friends, and family. As the “2016 Virginia Tech Undergraduate Student of the Year” and research analyst & activist on “menstrual hygiene management on girls in underserved areas of sub-Saharan Africa”, Nneoma is an example of the “graytness” that comes from having “grayt” friendships.

Join me for an in-depth conversation with Nneoma as she shares insightful stories from her upbringing in Nigeria, lessons acquired from her burgeoning journey in public and urban affairs, her perceived “graytness”, and wisdom that we can all embrace to “Make our good, GRAYT”:

INTRODUCTION

1. What compelled you to focus your research and efforts to public and urban affairs? (When did you first know that you wanted to pursue research and/or a career that would position you to address public and urban affair issues?

Nneoma: Growing up, I was always very aware of the structural and infrastructural issues in Nigeria. You would read in the newspapers of little kids falling into pipes or get frustrated travelling a 30-min distance in 3 hours because of unnecessary traffic, and I remember often thinking that my country was too well-equipped in natural resources and human resources to still have fundamental issues like these. I chose to study public and urban affairs because it’s incredibly encompassing of all sorts of issues, you get familiar with environmental law, with water sanitation, with zoning and then with policy, all in the same breath. I was drawn to it because of the broadness of issues that can be tackled, and the diversity of places that it often covers.

JOURNEY

2. What are your earliest and/or fondest memories that encouraged you to address international service and issues facing girls and women in developing nations?

Nneoma: My mom has been my biggest inspiration in this way. When I was 16, I took a gap year between secondary school and university, and I travelled Northern Nigeria with her. She’s a Gender Advisor and has done work with international development organizations from UNICEF, to Oxfam to GEMS 3, amongst others. I followed her a lot and watched her facilitate workshops, bond with underserved communities, support and create initiatives. I basically watched her change womens’ lives and she put me right in the middle of it. She let me participate in the Gender Policy Dialogue that the World Bank held in Lagos in 2012, and I remember we were coming up with all these potential policy changes to take to the national government, and I literally thought, “This is what I want to do.”

3. What are some of the preparatory steps that have prepared you to one day flourish in transforming the treatment of girls?

Nneoma: I study, I learn and I try not to stop at sympathy. It’s really easy to say “Wow that’s terrible,” and change the channel, or go back to your TL, but I actively try to teach myself to say “How can I get involved.” Of course, you can’t do this for every single issue (or you might run mad, and then be ineffective); but I take those issues that I find near and dear to me, and I literally make lists of how to be involved. Sometimes, it’s as little as raising awareness—sharing about them on social media, donating to causes, attending seminars—other times, it’s jumping into the research myself, learning about it, and contributing actively (in the field) to the solutions.

4. What values have you brought with you from childhood in Nigeria to shape your perseverance towards fulfilling your purpose?

Nneoma: I definitely learned to put in my best. My parents always made it so that I at least tried. It’s important to minimize the fear of failure by prioritizing the disappointment of not trying. Nigeria is an incredibly communal society, that your successes are not yours alone—so there’s the pressure of doing well, but more importantly, there’s the comfort of knowing that you’re not alone if you don’t succeed.

GRAYTNESS

5. What do you identify as that differentiating factor that makes you equipped to address issues facing girls in underserved areas in Africa and throughout the world? What is your [graytness]?

Nneoma: I’m wary of saying I’m equipped because it always feels like there’s so much I don’t know (and I actually love the feeling of not knowing something, in the academic sense, because it means I can learn something new). That being said, I love my continent and I believe wholeheartedly in the purpose of the work I set out to do, I think the differentiating factor would be the blend of sincerity and a willingness to learn.

6. What advice can you give to a millennial about using their gifts and talents to build a brand/legacy for themselves?

Nneoma: I always give the same advice: start small. We always want to do that one big thing—crack that big joke that’ll go viral, write that big proposal that’ll get the prestigious grant, win the big election that’ll make you student body president—which is great. But you cannot get to the big without doing lots and lots of the small. I mean, isn’t the great big desert just lots and lots of grains of sand?

7. What are three (3) routine practices you implement to nurture and sharpen your differentiating factor?

Nneoma: I strategize—I’m such a lists person, I draw my ideas, I ruminate on them, I talk aloud to them. (2) I share my ideas with people around me that I trust. I know that I have blind spots and I can be hyper sensitive (or too insensitive) to certain things, so sharing ideas and thoughts can highlight those nuances to me (3) I try to win people over. Nobody is an island, and I find I’ve been most successful when I work with others. I love people, I’m a super-hyper extrovert and I love being around positive individuals, so I try to work with them.

EFFORTS/ETHICS

8. What and/or who do you attribute your [graytness] to?

Nneoma: Definitely my parents and my brothers. We keep a family chat on Whatsapp that’s constant laughs and love—we’re scattered around the globe with my mom in the UK, my brothers in San Francisco and DC, my dad in Lagos, and me in New York. So it could be very easy for us to get detached, but we’ve done a wonderful job of sharing our days, accomplishments and pits with each other, and I truly cannot imagine being without them to do life with.

9. What makes you challenge the status quo in the treatment of women and girls around the world? What causes you to excel beyond [good] and embrace [grayt]?

Nneoma: I try to make issues about the individual i.e. not look at (for example) female genital mutilation by saying “Some communities do this,” rather say, “there’s a young woman somewhere in Egypt undergoing this wicked procedure.” I visualize by putting names and faces, so that it feels closer, and it helps me stay motivated and maintain interest in the issue. There’s a quote by Charles Bukowski that I love, “You begin saving the world by saving one man at a time; all else is grandiose romanticism or politics.” And I say to myself: “One girl at a time.”

MOTIVATION

10. What are three (3) defining philosophies that you try to live by?

Nneoma: Very simple: Acknowledge God, Be kind to others and myself, Be honest with others and myself

11. What was one moment of failure or success that would motivate someone else to continuously press towards fulfilling their dream?

Nneoma: Because I’m a writer, I honed the skill of accepting “failure” pretty early in life. I learned to become comfortable with “failure” or not having things work out. As a creative writer, I understand that sometimes, you might send out a story or a poem that’s dear to you, and an editor would turn it down. It taught me a couple of things: sometimes you try your hardest and it’s just not that great—that’s okay, just keep improving. But it also taught me self-confidence, self-trust, because sometimes when that story comes back, I don’t change it again, because it is the story I want to write. I have to trust in myself that the work is complete, and many times when I’ve done that, it’s been published by a different magazine who wanted to listen to that story. It’s like that prayer:  “God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference.”

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[GRAYT PEOPLE] Profile Series curates an informational collective of inspirational individuals who have shown what it means to mobilize confidence to challenge [GOOD] and mobilize courage to champion [GRAYT]—highlighting their past, their journey to their [graytness], their efforts and ethics, their motivation, and their aspirations.

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The re-installment of TheJoshuaGray.com in October 2015 brought the [GRAYT PEOPLE] Profile Series, an informational collective inspirational individuals who have shown what it means to mobilize confidence to challenge [GOOD] and mobilize courage to champion [GRAYT]. This week, I revisted the profiles from The No Names, Dennaya Famous, Carlton Epic, Christian Astorga, and Tara Drinks for some of their most inspiring quotes. Explore some GRAYT QUOTES from some GRAYT PEOPLE for some added inspiration to your day:

1. “[Your] differentiating factor comes when you not only know who you are, but also what you want to be known for. You should cater to that purpose and emphasize it in all that you do—the key to building relevance and credibility.” —Jovel Roystan
2. “Understand that you cannot be someone else. You really have to be who you are. Sometimes when you have your vision, you have your dream, you’re constantly comparing yourself to the person who you want to be like [but] once you’re true to yourself, then you can be true to your brand”. —Tara Drinks
3. “Stay true to yourself while being flexible, realistic, and strategic.  Its important to understand what you want and the necessary steps it will take in order for you to get there. However, it is just as important to be flexible and understand that things may not always go as planned and that you may have to take a different route in order to achieve your overall goal.”—Kenneth Kyrell
4. “Be yourself and love that person.  You’ll be surprised when you find out how many people like the real you.”—Jovel Roystan
5. “Quality and authenticity are two things that will never go unappreciated no matter how the times change”—Christian Astorga.
6. “The impossible can always be broken down into possibilities. There’s no goal too big for God and there’s no dream that can’t be attained by taking the right actions. The key: you have to take [one] step at a time.”–Jovel & Kenneth
7. “Reading is important. There are millions of people who lived on the earth before us and have dealt with the same problems; it’s important to read to discover what someone may have went through to help you overcome your problem.”—Carlton Epic
8. “It’s important to only do things that you’re passionate about, and when that begins to happen […] people gravitate towards you naturally and your brand starts to build.”—Dennaya Famous
9. “Just because you don’t have the most experience or may not be the most gifted, as long as you are able to outwork everyone and have more passion that will excel you further than anything you my lack.”—Carlton Epic
10. “No matter how much you grow as an individual, always reflect and appreciate. Be conscious of who you are and who you choose to become”—Christian Astorga.

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Instagram has become a hub for discovering inspirational individuals who not only motivates you to return to their page for updates, but return to their pages for motivation in life. One of those individuals was Tara Drinks, the founder and lead writer for “The New Journalist,” an online space for relevant & cutting edge news topics.

After sharing our mutual respect for each other, I had the opportunity to chat with Tara about her life, her journey with The New Journalist, her graytness, her efforts, and her motivations. Tara’s innate humor birthed memorable quotes and impacting nuggets for recognizing your worth and walking in your worth!

INTRODUCTION:

Likening her fascination with journalism to that of a young boy or young girl having a favorite entertainer, Tara set her sights on being a reporter from an early age. From watching Mike Woods & Good Day New York, Good Morning America, and Eye Witness News, Tara always watched news— falling in love with the process of delivering all facts and proceeding to tell you your story.

Noting her evolving love for writing as an integral facet of her journalistic pursuits—from creative pieces and essays throughout high school—Tara went on to study communication concentrating on journalism in college.

What compelled you to operate in journalism?

In regards to broadcast journalism and news, “Growing up watching it and then definitely taking a liking to it and wanting to be just like it” prompted Tara to aspire to be a reporter and anchor. Nevertheless, after speaking with a producer at a news studio once, Tara noted that the producer told her she should aspire to be “a seasoned reporter…THEN you can be an anchor”. Noting the importance of taking steps to reaching your dreams, Tara found herself at the birth of “The New Journalist”.

 THE JOURNEY:

Toying with “selective” shyness during her freshmen and sophomore years in college, Tara finally branched out during her junior and senior years by taking on various leadership roles. Nevertheless, when graduation came, she found herself in a predicament: a communications degree and no job.

In this moment of hopelessness, Tara realized that “I needed to be setting [myself] up for how I’m going to deliver to the world that ‘Here I am, I want to be a reporter’”

What did you start doing to prepare for The New Journalist?

In her post-undergraduate moments of self-reflection, Tara realized “I had nothing to back up what it is I wanted to do. It’s like going to a producer and saying ‘I want to be a singer’, but no demo. How does that work?” Taking her own advice, Tara proceeded to create “The New Journalist” as a portfolio to demonstrate, “Hey Guys, Look I can do it!” Tara humbly acknowledged that, “No one wanted to hire me, so I had to hire myself! I put me on my own payroll!”

“Doing it” has become an understatement as she attributes “Good Lord Jesus Christ” as the power behind the brand that has become of The New Journalist. But what keeps her “doing it?”

What values have you brought with you from your past to empower and sustain your [graytness]?

Tara attributes consistency & confidence as the values that empowers the graytness within “The New Journalist”. Firstly, Tara believes “What separates anybody from the [grayts] is just the fact that they kept going.”

In spite of her shyness that tried to prevent her from branching out and trying anything on her own, confidence has become a significant value that helps Tara tackle and find comfort in handling “The New Journalist.” As she gets in formation with her purpose and the factors that make her differentiates her talents, Tara pushes her content with a mindset of, “Listen, here it is. Either you’re going to like it, love it, or hate it.”

GRAYTNESS:

Social media has impressed a quick news cycle into journalism focused on a rapid viewer captivation; nevertheless, Tara’s aim is somewhat different. In our conversation, she highlighted, “I want to bring back that true art of journalism. Today, it’s become whatever story is going to get us the most hits.”

What do you identify as your differentiating factor among other journalists?

Committed to staying relevant, yet going out and finding the stories that you aren’t hearing about, Tara is committed to “returning to back to the basics [of journalism], [acknowledging] there’s an art behind it.”

What advice can you give to a young journalist or entrepreneur about the art of branding yourself?

“Starts with being true to yourself: Understand that you cannot be someone else. You really have to be who you are. Sometimes when you have your vision, you have your dream, you’re constantly comparing yourself to the person who you want to be like… I am who I am for a reason. So I need to own that. Once you’re true to yourself, then you can be true to your brand”.

Acknowledging her good friend Bria Brown, Tara proceeded to note the importance of “Find[ing] someone in the industry that can encourage you and push you to keep going. Not jealous of each other.”

As an integral aspect to her life, Tara went on to highlight the importance of consistency. “Make sure you’re consistent: Once you get in the habit of pushing yourself and keep going, you’ll really see the fruits of your labor”

What are three (3) routine rituals you implement to maintain your discipline?

Although Tara believes that “when you’re passionate about something, you’ll put all of your efforts into it”, she shared a three key things she does to nurture her differentiating factor:

1. “Prayer”
2. “Studying other writers [and] other reporters,” and
3. “Constantly making sure that I’m watching what’s going on”.

EFFORTS & ETHICS

What and/or who do you attribute your [graytness] to?

Without hesitation, Tara sent all credit for her “graytness” to God, sharing “I am who I am because of him, let’s be clear.” More specifically, Tara recalls a sermon titled, “ You Were Born for a Time Like This” as a key influence on her belief that “Whether it is a reporter, I know I’m made for a reason.”

What makes you challenge the status quo?

Acknowledging that there is a specific reason on why she is made, Tara expresses that she challenges the status quo because she is, “Determined to now create my own lane; because I’m dedicated to that I can’t allow myself to fall into what everyone else is doing.”

What do you love so much about journalism and breaking news?

There seems to always be something that keeps us going, that sustains our passion for something. For Tara, excitement sustains her passion for news and journalism—expressing, “It’s so exciting to me. I’m a kid in a candy store when I’m in the city if I’m walking past a broadcast going on. Long story short, I literally light up.”

MOTIVATION

Throughout Tara’s journey, BELIEF has been a significant facet to the development and success of The New Journalist. Her story underscores the power in believing in the possibility of our dreams, believing in the process towards fulfilling our dreams, and believing in the reality of our dreams when they manifest—evident in her philosophies in life and moments of failure and success:

What are three defining philosophies that you try to live by?

1. Keep God First: “I think that’s a constant lesson. I don’t think we ever get to a point where we fully perfect it.”
2. Self-Love: “Especially with what’s going on in the world, its something that you really have to, if you haven’t perfected, get somewhat close to!”
3. Appreciate the value of family & the value of your career: We can “get caught up in the hustle and bustle of everyday life that we forget how short life really is.”

What was one moment of failure or success that would motivate someone else?

“Starting The New Journalist […] came from not having a job, which was a failure. The constant ‘No. No. No’ that really motivated me to start it.”

Another moment that set the tone for Tara’s commitment to “The New Journalist” occurred two to three months into the site’s existence. Tara had the opportunity to report and interview a fellow celebrity on the behalf of “The New Journalist”; a moment where she realized that sometimes you have to “fake it until you make it”, even if you “have no idea of who you are or what you do”, you have to make it believable!

#BELIEVE

Connect with Tara!
www.TheNewJournalist.com
Instagram: @TheNewJournalist

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[GRAYT PEOPLE] Profile Series curates an informational collective of inspirational individuals who have shown what it means to mobilize confidence to challenge [GOOD] and mobilize courage to champion [GRAYT]—highlighting their past, their journey to their [graytness], their efforts and ethics, their motivation, and their aspirations.

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